Scammed or Self-Inflicted Wound?
It’s my personal opinion that many people who get themselves scammed in China, or elsewhere for that matter, do so almost willingly.
When I say “willingly“, I don’t actually mean that they say, “Hey! Mr. Scammer, please take my money from me!“ Although, when one looks at it from a certain direction, it may appear to be almost a silent agreement to such.
The Addictive Brain!
But, what I really mean, is that it’s reminiscent of the behaviour of a drug addict; because one knows one shouldn’t, but one nevertheless goes and does it anyway.
People usually KNOW a few things before a scammer closes on them.
1. They know that the deal is too good to be true.
Which quite frankly, in and of itself, should be ringing every alarm bell in their nervous systems.
2. They know that they are ignoring the warnings that their whole life’s experiences are sending them.
Yes, they just feel the truth of it in the seat of their pants – that something isn’t quite right. But, like the risk takers we humans are, ike the eternal optimists that we are – we persist with it and even ignore our own selves.
3. They know they should not send that money.
By this point, these people are really like junkies trying to withdraw from drugs. “I know I shouldn’t, but I just can’t help myself. I just need to do it. Just once more. I’m sure I’ll get lucky this time!“
Don't Play Russian Roulette With Your Money!
We use most of our senses, to avoid being set on fire, to smell the foods we eat, and perhaps the dog poop behind the sofa; we use our ears and eyes to stop us being run over by a car or truck, as we cross the road.
But, then we go and send $ 5,000 to some girl called “Minky” on the other side of the planet!
I mean – HEY! That isn’t even a real name,; and I don’t mean a fake or false identity. I mean not real as in the same way that I don’t have “kizu-maliki-shopytoof” in my kitchen; primarily because no such thing exists, not unless by sheer fluke I’ve named a real kitchen utensil in some obscure language.
Surely the fact they can’t even get a regular name together must tell you something about the SERIOUSNESS of the people you’re dealing with.
I’m reminded of those people who call those telephone sex lines (whatever they are), and some grotesque woman is sitting there pushing Twinkies, or another brand of sweet and sticky thing, down her throat like a factory production line, weighing in at 437 lbs (at 5 feet 3), and has to walk with the aid of sticks due to her medically gross obesity, is telling you her name is “Yvette“, and that she’s tall, slim, has diplomas in dance and theatre, is wearing a black negligee, likes you much more than anybody else who calls, because you’re almost like a real friend, and that we really should meet one day, but now she’s feeling really wet for you, and would you like to….
Ahem! Well, I’m sure you get the picture.
These “victims” have a sense that it’s going to happen, but still they press on, gritting their teeth in the hopes of a win.
Now, that’s what I call optimism!
Yes, these people know it’s going to happen. If not actually GOING TO, then certainly VERY LIKELY TO.
That’s what makes the scam almost a self-inflicted wound!
We're All Gamblers In One Way Or Another!
Honestly, the inside of these peoples’ heads must look and sound exactly the same as that of a gambler with his last dollar – there he is standing in front of a fruit machine, and trying to decide whether to buy some food to eat, or slip it into the slot.
Of course, the decision was already made before he’d even thought of the question. Because our human sense of risk, or addiction, tends to walk about three paces in front of all other thought processes we’re experiencing.
Our sense of risk rides along like a surf board on the wave of every other thought we have. And it is because of this that our addiction will always finish ahead of everything else we think, do, taste, or feel.
It lives on the top of that wave, and everything else rests in its’ shadow.
We tell alcoholics that the first thing they need to do is understand that they HAVE A PROBLEM, before they can address it.
The same is true here.
In the same way as those guys calling on those sex lines, often the people who lose out here and elsewhere, are simply deluding themselves. They actually make the job of being a scammer easier.
Just remember this. A scam can only occur when one party wants something for nothing; all the other party is doing is giving you nothing for something.
Try to cut corners and you’ll cut your own throat.
There is no secret way; no special way; no something to which you aren’t privy.
There is simply a right way and wrong way. The first will bring you benefits, and the second will bring you misery.
You’ll simply lose the dollars, whilst trying to save the cents.
Related Articles
- Dr. Tian Dayton: Narcissism in a Bottle: The Self Centerdness of Addiction (huffingtonpost.com)
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